Nothing pissed me off more than answering the question of whether I am in a hostile or loving World/Universe.
It seems like a no-brainer.
I mean, just look at the news. People are killing each other, starving, breaking up marriages, living in poverty, being laid off, evicted, abused, raped, harassed…and the list goes on.
Doesn’t seem like a loving world if you look at it that way. And, I didn’t understand how to choose what I thought about what was happening.
It was hard for me because I have experienced my own trauma.
I have been poor, laid off, raped, neglected, emotionally abused and even almost died from illness. The filter through the way I viewed the world was waiting for the next bad thing to happen. I told myself that I somehow attracted pain, problems and people who wanted to do me harm or be untrustworthy.
I didn’t understand that the way I saw the world brought me more of the same. The Universe says, yes.
So, when I tell the story that the World is this scary place where no one really loves you, you are one step away from losing everything and people take advantage of your kindness and hurt you.
The Universe said, yes. Now let me bring you more evidence that this is true. And, it danced for me to the tune of a hostile environment.
But, at the same time, all this bad stuff was happening. Amazing things were happening.
People were falling in love, helping each other, thriving off the resources, experiencing success, giving to one another, sacrificing for each other and rearing amazing children. They were saving each other and helping one another build and grow.
There was all this love that was evidence of a loving World also dancing at the same time. But, all I could see was the bad because that was the filter I chose to see through and, therefore, that was the experience I chose for myself.
“Loving people live in a loving world. Hostile people live in a hostile world.
– Wayne Dyer
What happened when I decided that the World is Loving?
It’s not magic. It didn’t bring world peace. The news is still filled with the same stories. But, I succeeded in creating inner peace. I detached from making my world a place where everyone is out to get me and failure is stalking me. I relinquished my victimhood. I brought more positive energy to new experiences. I expected good outcomes instead of bad outcomes.
I stopped mourning mistakes. I stopped feeling attacked. I was able to let people be miserable without feeling like I was somehow responsible. And, I delighted more in the interactions with open, happy, loving people. I took more accountability for my personal feelings and less responsibility for the thoughts, feelings and actions of others.
I viewed failures as lessons. I had shifted my focus to figuring out how the Universe and World were conspiring to help me instead of seeing them as trying to destroy me.
And, I wake up much happier. I am curious what the day will bring. And, I handle defeat with much more grace. I am much more secure. Bad things don’t mean bad me.
I navigate the World much more like a GPS, when I make a wrong turn, I just start recalculating and look for another route. And, I expect it to lead me where I need to be.
I don’t see a red light as red because it is there to prevent me from moving forward. I don’t see a green light as a reward for doing something right.
How you choose to see the world isn’t about seeing the truth. The truth is there. How you interpret it is the lens through which you experience everything. It is really about how you want to feel.
Frustrated or hopeful? You choose.
“Everyone has bad days, and when you’re having a bad day, you think, ‘Here I am being singled out by a hostile, malicious Universe that is picking exclusively on me.’ And then you read a book about bad days and realize they happen to everyone, not just tormented, persecuted you.”